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Bruce [userpic]
A First Time for Everything

I've just had my first comment thread frozen. What with all the Open Source Boob Project crap flying (Sorry, kshandra), I found myself at this post, to which I felt compelled to make this comment, with the accompanying response.

I'm obviously going to avoid posting anything further there - for one thing, I get the impression that as a male, I'm disqualified.

Not to mention, y'know, someone who thinks she's kinda full of it.

But I am truly curious about people's opinions of the interchange, for anyone willing to take the time to look.

Current Location: The Duplex
Mood: thoughtfulbemused

I'm wondering exactly how she felt you were off the topic of sexual harassment, but I don't disagree that there would have been 50 people jumping on it. What she said in her post is true; your response of it needing to be more gender neutral because it happens to guys, too is also true. In general people need to be more aware and less afraid of being helpful. Of course it could start by people being a little less flimsy about speaking up when they're uncomfortable, but that's a whole different ball of wax.

I find this society overwhelming casts males in the abuser role, and females in the abused, completely separately from what might have happened.

There's been a paradigm shift, true, but only in that it's now no longer OK for men to be abusers.

Oddly, most studies (of spousal abuse, for example) indicate that it's a pretty much even mix. There's violent nutcases and creeps to an equal extent in both genders.

But just try to find a battered men's shelter.

And this is what worries me, because if a woman yells "rape", the burden of proof that it wasn't falls on the man. And there is frequently no such proof available.

Very true. You're preaching to the choir here, but then I don't think you thought otherwise.

these guys left a poster on the wall down the hall (adjacent to the one about "young ladies, make money donating your eggs to infertile couples")
okay, I admit, it's virtual as opposed to physical refuge

Any step is a good step.