annoyedBut don't presume to know "what I think of you" from a few lines written here and there.
I'm not some vacuous idiot who makes snap judgments of people based on a few minutes of contact, and then refuses to see anything further about the individual.
I happen to know that Timmie loves you. And I have a large amount of trust in his opinions. So I'm pretty positive, despite the sides I've seen and heard of you, that you at least contain the seeds of a decent human being. I honestly don't know what they might be, because we've never talked.
But I know they're there. Somewhere.
I believe I can confidently say that his friends, as a whole, aren't exactly in the most positive mindset about you. For one, we've all seen what you've put him through. For another, you've disdained actually meeting with us. We're Timmie's family of choice, and happen to know that we're some pretty amazing human beings - not the least because we don't waste a lot of our time belittling other people to make ourselves feel better.
No matter what you do, you will never be able to steal him away from us. This isn't a threat, or even a challenge. It's a simple fact. We love and trust him, and he loves and trusts us.
We fully expect that a relationship will take up a fair amount of his time. That's a given. But any attempt to throw a wedge between us will only, in the long run, separate the two of you. Believe it or not, he actually has the intelligence to recognize cheap manipulation for what it is.
So you have a choice. On the one hand, you can pull your head out of your ass, and accept the privilege of sharing the life of an excellent individual, as he shares his with you. Maybe even, oh, I don't know, learn to trust him and his opinions, and fucking stop trying to harass him in the sick hope that if you ask him the same question 50 times, his answer will suddenly be different.
On the other hand, you can continue as you have been, and keep pulling the grand dramatic gestures, the 4am "gotta talk about this now" brainwash sessions, and the "OMG how dare you have a life that isn't totally focussed on me" crap. Keep going this way, you will lose him sooner or later, and I'd say more likely sooner than later. He loves you, and he'll go to huge lengths for those he loves, but he's not a masochist.
So please, for your sake and his,
